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JEALOUSY

Question: Why do I get so jealous when my partner talks to other people?

Answer: When you first connected with your partner and looked into their eyes, it felt like he or she was the only person in the room. As you get deeper into your relationship and call yourselves a couple, the realization hits you: You and your partner are not alone on this planet. There are others! Are they a threat?

When we are in a committed relationship, we assume the connection we have with each other will be strong enough to fend off outside threats. In some ways, this you-belong-to-me-and-I-belong-to-you mentality is sweet; it's the stuff of pop songs and poetry. But sometimes the intensity of that connection is too strong.

When one partner sees everyone whom his or her partner comes into contact with as a potential threat, it is a sign that jealousy has taken hold a sign that jealousy has taken hold. Shakespeare called it "the green-eyed monster," and once it gets a hold of your relationship, it sinks its teeth in and can rip it apart. What causes jealousy?

If you've got strong feelings of jealousy, it's probably a sign that you don't have enough trust in your partner that he or she is being faithful to you. That lack of trust may be prompted by one of four factors.

1. You may feel insecure about your self-worth. In these cases, either you've been raised to believe, or some part of your inner self feels, that you just don't measure up. Because you don't love yourself, you can't believe that others would love you, so you live in fear that your partner's "true" feelings will be revealed and she will leave.

2. You're prone to cheating on your partner -- maybe even have done so. Knowing what you're capable of, you project that behavior onto your partner.

3. You and your partner haven't yet figured out how to establish safe boundaries within the relationship establish safe boundaries within the relationship. Having a tight bond is about building walls around your love with windows that allow others to be part of it -- not doors where competing lovers can walk right in and disrupt your home. Because you don't know what's permissible within the relationship and what's not, you're constantly on your toes.

4. Your mate is cheating on you. Cheating doesn't have to include sex; it often has to do with making emotional connections to others outside the relationship. If your partner is sharing things about your private life with attractive members of the opposite sex, it robs a sense of intimacy from your relationship and leaves you feeling vulnerable.

Knowing the factors that lead to jealousy is an important first step to getting things fixed.

Put your focus on building trust
Put your focus on building trust. If you've got some growing up to do, therapy may help. Both of you have to learn how to set boundaries in the relationship. That requires respecting your mate's definition of limits of outside relationships from the start.
Over time, as trust builds, you and your partner can redefine what feels safe for the relationship. After all, when you've got a great relationship, you want to share it with the world.

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Random thoughts...

this blog is scanty mainly because thoughts strike me and i consider them too trivial to put down here. also sometimes, like i have said before i'm too far away from my PC to put them down (i've tried carrying a jotter around- dint work!). these thoughts are very volatile and if not condensed into words dont last long.

i need tips on how to handle this situation.

any ideas anyone?

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***if only he'll send me 5% (1% sef will do) of his prize. Proud of him anyway!

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Random Gist

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii, Happy new year! i know this i late but better late than never they say.
hmmmmmmm, gist plenty!!!! where do i start from?
Well, i have a new job (yes! another one). i must also add that i got many other offers that at a point i became confused and was certain i was going to make the wrong decision. anyway, thank God for goodness and mercy. everything turned out just right.
i remember when i was desperate for a new job. i was sure that i was going to die at my first job, that i was cursed or something like that.

Anyway, I read my friend’s blog(Teva) and I realized (with much relief) that I wasn’t the only one that occasionally has those moments of doubt. Just like her, sometimes I’m so scared………when I think about whether I’ll ever be happy (as in GENUINELY happy), about whether the choices I’ve made have been right, if (as many people believe) there’s only person for every person, I have blown my chance. God forbid!!!
by the way, there's something i've been thinking about, there's this song about 'when the wrong one loves you right'. i think that's happening to me now. but he is so wrong for me, as in CE N'EST PAS POSSIBLE!!! simple! He is Forbidden (Miss T. u feel me?).
anyway, more of that later! on saturday, i ran into a bloke that my friends and i talked about. we got talking, exchanged numbers and talked a whole lot more later. we were supposed to hook up on sunday but i had to do attend to somemore serious matters.anyway we have postponed. so far so good. not sure if he's single cos we havnt talked about that yet.
will fill u in as soon as there's more gist.
have to run, by the way something really emabarrassing happened to me last month or so.
i was getting down from a bus and my skirt got hooked on something. and the whole thing went up.......guess what i was wearing thongs and the ppl in the bus got a good view of my backside. it wasnt funny at all! and even more annoying was the fact that it was not the first time i was experriencing somethinglike that (although the first time was indoors and really my own fault).
after the 'bus experience', i found my self wondering which reolution to make, never to enter a bus or never to wear thongs again..........